By Mandy Bel Air

CityGirlOnTheGo.com

I am currently sitting here in my living room staring at my phone. I pick it up, put it down, pick it up and put it right back down. I know I need to pick up the phone and make the call. I could just text…. that would be simpler and that is the only way we communicate. Which, by the way is not a legitimate form of communication when you are just starting to date. A guy should call a girl if he wants to set up a date. Its one thing to text her when you are running late, but never calling and only texting is lame. As far as being broken up with via text, it has happened to me and it is painful and basically the technological version of the post it note. However, one date and four months of dating are two entirely different situations. I mean really, who dumps their girlfriend of four months via text.

So here it goes. I am just going with the simplest route. I am going to text the nice guy that I went on a date with last week that I no longer want to see him. I know I should just be nice and call, but I am tired and its been a long day and I have been on the phone all day. Here it goes.

Me: Hi! Hope you are having a good night. Just want to let you know that I can’t make dinner on Sunday night.

Him: Why?

Me: I am sorry but I am just not interested in dating you. I had a great time hanging out but would prefer to remain friends.

Him: With benefits?

Arrggghhhh. Why do they always go that route? I don’t want to date him but apparently he is okay with just being a hook up buddy. I guess I should be flattered. He is interested, but this proves that he was interested in one thing.

Me: Sorry, but no benefits.

Him: Bummer. Oh well. Have a great night.

Me: You too.

Well, that was easy and painless. Kind of like ripping of a bandaid. I feel kind of bad but I am pretty sure I am setting this guy free to date someone else. I definitely did not want to keep dating him when I knew from the very beginning that it was never going to work. I have done that and it just gets ugly the longer you date. If you don’t have the spark in the beginning it will not appear over time. The spark wasn’t there and I am now free to find someone who has that spark.